I’m here to be a safe presence. To offer you an objective sounding board where you’re free to express your needs and wishes.
To create space for you to spend time with your loved ones. To present options and help with the logistics, so that we can make your wishes happen.
“Dying is not an act you can easily undertake yourself. If being born amid those who will love you is the first best hope of life, dying within a community is the last.
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Here’s what I can do to help:
- Tackle some of your daily tasks, so you can take the time you need.
- Work with you to create rituals that memorialize your loved one and commemorate their life, so you can keep their memory alive.
- Help you to expand your circle of support, so you can be heard without judgment.
- Listen to you and spend time with you, so you don’t feel alone.
- Share mindfulness activities, so you can begin to feel less turmoil.
My father was dying during lockdown. By the time he actually came to pass, we had a vaccine. Dad suffered from APHASIA and could not communicate via telephone, zoom, or computer. I spent a year and a half outside my Dad’s window at an assisted living home. By the time the facility allowed me to enter my Dad’s room, there were two weeks left to his life. Thank God I had a Death Doula. And thank God that Doula was Tolley.
My family had a plan that consisted of my step-mother being bedside and my participation being secondary. As we prepped for my father’s death, it became apparent to Tolley that our family plan may not play out as thought.
Tolley and I prepared for literally 15 different possible end of life scenarios and I was able to exhibit grace and space while recognizing everyone’s individual grieving pattern.
To this day, I am amazed at how peaceful I was when indeed Dad died and the plan went awry. It was a powerful space to be in and it healed me in unexpected ways that continue to this day. In my working with a Doula, it didn’t just benefit me. It benefited everyone I came in contact with. It benefited my Father as I knew what questions to ask and most importantly I was prepared.